Advice for anyone who is grieving this Father's Day
11 June 2019
Ahead of Father’s Day we spoke to our Bereavement Team, who wanted to share some advice for anyone who is grieving. Brenda Clayton, Beth Gregan and Sarah Beaumont, who make up our Bereavement Team, said:
Despite what many people might think, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve and it’s unique to everyone. We often find that people worry that they need to have big plans for Father’s Day, especially if they have children whose Dad has died.
We would suggest you have open and honest conversations with your loved ones about what they’d like to do on Father’s Day.
You might find the below advice helpful this Father’s Day, especially for children:
- Don’t feel like you have to do something just because it’s Father’s Day: Sometimes people feel like that they have to do something extra special but don’t be afraid to make Father’s Day a ‘normal’ day. Speak to your loved ones, especially children, about how you’d like to spend the day.
- Talk about special memories: You might find it helpful to talk about the person who has died and special memories that you have of that person.
- Make or buy a card for Dad or someone special: If children want to make cards, don’t discourage them. It might be an opportunity to make cards, put them somewhere special and talk about memories. Or, instead of writing a Father’s Day card, ask children if they’d like to make a card for someone else who is special to them.
- Tip for teachers: Give all children the opportunity to take part in Father’s Day classroom activities instead of assuming a grieving child wouldn’t want to take part.
- Most importantly, look after yourself. Recognise what is right for you and your loved ones and children, and remember it’s OK to be upset.